Have you ever questioned why some emotional responses feel more intense than the circumstances warrant. Or why certain patterns keep appearing in your life? To better identify and treat these tendencies, renowned physician and mental health specialist Dr. Gabor Maté has created a method known as Compassionate Inquiry (Maté, 2022). This post will describe this approach, explain how it operates, and discuss why it could be the secret to a deeper understanding of who you are.

Who is Dr. Gabor Maté?
Dr. Gabor Maté’s knowledge of how trauma impacts our health and well-being has been shaped by his work with vulnerable people. His own experience as a child of Holocaust survivors has also contributed to this knowledge. Dr. Maté is renowned for his pioneering research into the relationship between stress, childhood experiences, and physical and mental health struggles. His method is evidence-based and profoundly human. It draws on both scientific studies and decades of therapeutic practice (Maté, 2019).

What is Compassionate Inquiry?
Imagine having a conversation with someone. This person is able to help you understand yourself gently and clearly. They lead you to begin to see your life experiences in a completely new light. That is the goal of Compassionate Inquiry. According to Maté (2022) this is a therapeutic approach that assists people in:
- Recognizing the reasons behind their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
- Linking their present difficulties to prior experiences.
- Acknowledge how their body retains trauma and stress.
- Create a more compassionate relationship with themselves.

The Basic Premise: Everything Has a Reason
The idea that our actions first evolved to help people survive is a core tenet of Compassionate Inquiry (Maté, 2009). This tenet even includes actions that appear to be troublesome. For example, someone who always tries to satisfy others at their own expense. This behavior likely started as a way to ensure safety or gain affection in their early environment.

How Does Trauma Shape Us?
Trauma, according to Compassionate Inquiry, includes more than just significant, visible incidents. According to Dr. Maté (2022) trauma can also be:
Developmental Trauma:
This occurs when our basic emotional needs are not satisfied during childhood. For example. A child’s who’s emotions were frequently minimized with statements like “don’t be so sensitive” or “stop crying” may have trouble identifying their feelings. They may also struggle to express these feelings as they grow older.
Attachment Trauma:
This occurs when our early relationships with caretakers are disrupted. Even well-meaning caretakers may have been under stress, sad, or coping with their own traumas. They were unable to provide their child with the regular emotional support required.
Societal Trauma:
This covers the impact of discrimination, poverty, or institutional oppression. It also includes living in a society that prioritizes production over well-being.

The Body Keeps the Score
Understanding the impact of stress and trauma on our physical health is a key component of Compassionate Inquiry. According to Dr. Maté (2022), there are very real ways in which our bodies retain emotional suffering. This could manifest as:
- Chronic pain
- Autoimmune conditions
- Digestive problems
- Anxiety and Depression
- Addiction
The Healing Process in Compassionate Inquiry

Applications of Compassionate Inquiry
Compassionate Inquiry is effective for some people for many reasons. This approach does not pathologize or blame the individual and instead honors the wisdom of both body and mind. This approach emphasizes understanding rather than fixing, valuing the person’s inherent worth and capacity for healing. Compassionate Inquiry can help individuals facing chronic stress and burnout. It also addresses relationship difficulties, addiction, and compulsive behaviors. It can assist with anxiety, depression, and chronic health conditions. Additionally, it helps with self-criticism, shame, career challenges, parenting difficulties, and many other challenges.
The Role of Compassion
The “compassionate” in Compassionate Inquiry is crucial. This approach recognizes that we all did the best we could with the resources we had at the time. Healing happens not through judgment or force, but through understanding and acceptance (Maté, 2022).

Conclusion
Compassionate Inquiry provides a meaningful way to understand ourselves and our patterns. This approach combines scientific understanding with deep compassion. It helps people see that our challenges make sense given our experiences. Healing is possible when we approach ourselves with understanding and care. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Whether through Compassionate Inquiry or another approach, taking steps to understand and heal yourself is one of the most important investments you can make in your well-being.

Resources for Further Learning
Books by Dr. Gabor Maté:
“When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection”
“In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction”
“Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder”
“The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture”
References
Maté, G. (2019). When the body says no: The Cost of Hidden Stress. Random House.
Maté, G. (2022). The myth of normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture. Random House.
Maté, G., MD. (2009). In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction. Knopf Canada.

Maya Hèrnandez, B.Sc
Maya Hèrnandez is a staff therapist who specializes in general mental health.

















































